What is Consent, and Why is it Important?
Consent is a pretty big deal, whether you're chatting on our platform or hanging out in person. It's all about saying "yes" because you genuinely want to do something.
So, why does it matter so much? Consent is the foundation of a respectful community. It ensures everyone feels safe and respected, whether online or in real life.
Consent basics are simple. It is not just about getting the green light to go ahead. It is about keeping communication open and making sure everyone is on the same page before, during, and after you do anything together.
How Does WAX Promote Consent?
WAX is all about making consent a big deal. We do it by having clear rules in our Community Guidelines that act as a friendly guide to treating each other with respect, whether we're chatting or hanging out.
And whilst consent is often talked about in terms of physical things or clear violations, there are many other instances in which consent needs to be respected.
Lying About Your Age, Marital Status or Contraception
We’re absolutely not saying that married people can’t date or sleep with others because consensual non‑monogamy exists. But if the information you choose to conceal would impact someone’s choices, for example if someone wouldn’t go on a date with you if they knew you were married, you are taking those choices away from them. Taking choices away is not in line with consent.
Unsolicited Images
Sending someone an unsolicited intimate image is never acceptable. Being on a dating app does not mean someone wants to start a conversation with an unexpected close‑up of any body part. This applies equally to all genders. No one should be surprised with intimate images they did not ask for.
Stealthing
Stealthing is when someone tampers with a condom, removes it, or lies about using one without their partner’s consent or knowledge. This is a form of sexual assault and is illegal. If someone wants to use a condom to have sex with you, put it on and keep it on.
Body Language
If someone pulls away, flinches, freezes, or shows discomfort, do not assume they are fine to continue. Stop and check in. Reading body language matters in all situations, not just sexual ones. If someone looks uncomfortable or tries to disengage, respect that signal and give them space.
Don’t Push It
If someone only says yes after being asked repeatedly or under pressure, that yes is not freely given. If someone does not say yes the first time, step back and leave them alone.
Celebrate Saying No
Some people are socialised to say yes more often, even when they do not want to. They may say yes but mean no. Saying no should always be safe and respected. If you receive a no, celebrate it. It means you can trust that a yes is genuine. Helping people feel comfortable saying no can be as simple as asking “Is there anything you don’t like doing?”
Respect Boundaries
If someone says they dislike something, respect it. Do not make them justify their boundary. They do not need to explain why. Respecting boundaries is essential for consent.
What Are Some Consent Must‑Knows?
Always ask for clear agreement before anything physical or intimate.
Respect boundaries and choices. A no is a no. A yes is a yes.
Consent should be an enthusiastic yes from everyone involved and can be withdrawn at any time.
Consent is not valid if someone is intoxicated or under the influence of substances.
Everyone involved must be of legal age to give consent.
What Should I Do If I Feel My Consent Has Been Violated on WAX?
If you ever feel that your consent has been violated within our platform, please report the issue immediately. We take these reports seriously and will take appropriate action.
How Can I Be Consent‑Savvy in Real Life?
Always ask for and respect your partner’s agreement before anything intimate or physical.
Learn what consent means and how to set healthy boundaries.
Encourage open conversations about consent with partners.
Support survivors. Believe them, help them access support, and be someone they can trust.
Where Can I Find More Resources on Consent?
We recommend exploring external resources and organisations dedicated to consent education and awareness. These can help you understand and practise consent in different contexts.